Emotional Intelligence improve Decision Making-Psychologist
Harshpreet Kaur-royalpatiala.in-Patiala
What does being emotional intelligent means?? Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people
What is Emotional Quotient and why is it important!!
Some research shows that your Intelligence Quotient can help you to be successful to the extent of 20 percent only in life. The rest of 80 percent success depends on your Emotional Quotient.
Emotional Quotient affects the 4 most important areas of our life:
- One’s Performance at work:Emotional Intelligence can help a person to navigate the social complexities of the workplace, lead and motivate others, and excel in one’s career. In fact nowadays during job interviews a lot of companies assess candidates on their emotional Intelligence or emotional quotient.
- One’s Physical Health: If a person is unable to manage his/her stress, it can lead to serious health problems. Uncontrolled stress can lead to high blood pressure, suppress the immune system, increase the risk of heart attack and stroke, contribute to infertility, and speed up the aging process. So, the first step to improving emotional intelligence is to relieve stress.
- One’s Mental Health:Uncontrolled stress can also impact an individual’s mental health, making him/her vulnerable to depression and anxiety. If an individual is unable to understand his or her emotions, he/she will be more prone to mood swings due to which a person cannot for strong relations with others.
- One’s Relationships:By understanding one’s emotions and how to control them, an individual is better able to express how he/she feels and understand how other’s feel. This allows the individual to communicate effectively and form strong relationships both at work and personally.
Signs of High Emotional Intelligence:
1. You think about feelings.
Emotional intelligence begins with what is called self- and social awareness, the ability to recognize emotions (and their impact) in both you and others.That awareness begins with reflection. You ask questions like:
- What are my emotional strengths? What are my weaknesses?
- How does my current mood affect my thoughts and decision making?
- What’s going on under the surface that influences what others say or do?
2. You pause.
The pause is as simple as taking a moment to stop and think before you speak or act. This can help save you from embarrassing moments or from making commitments too quickly. In other words, pausing helps you refrain from making a permanent decision based on a temporary emotion.
3. You strive to control your thoughts.
You don’t have much control over the emotion you experience in a given moment. But you can control your reaction to those emotions–by focusing on your thoughts. By striving to control your thoughts, you resist becoming a slave to your emotions, allowing yourself to live in a way that’s in harmony with your goals and values.
4. You benefit from criticism.
Nobody enjoys negative feedback. But you know that criticism is a chance to learn, even if it’s not delivered in the best way. And even when it’s unfounded, it gives you a window into how others think. When you receive negative feedback, you keep your emotions in check and ask yourself: How can this make me better?
5. You show authenticity.
Authenticity doesn’t mean sharing everything about yourself, to everyone, all of the time. It does mean saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and sticking to your values and principles above all else. You know not everyone will appreciate you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. But the ones who matter will.
6. You demonstrate empathy.
The ability to show empathy, which includes understanding others’ thoughts and feelings, helps you connect with others. Instead of judging or labeling others, you work hard to see things through their eyes. Empathy doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with another person’s point of view. Rather, it’s about striving to understand–which allows you to build deeper, more connected relationships.
7. You praise others.
All humans crave acknowledgement and appreciation. When you commend others, you satisfy that craving and build trust in the process. This all begins when you focus on the good in others. Then, by sharing specifically what you appreciate, you inspire them to be the best version of themselves.
8. You give helpful feedback.
Negative feedback has great potential to hurt the feelings of others. Realizing this, you reframe criticism as constructive feedback, so the recipient sees it as helpful instead of harmful.
9. You apologize.
It takes strength and courage to be able to say you’re sorry. But doing so demonstrates humility, a quality that will naturally draw others to you. Emotional intelligence helps you realize that apologizing doesn’t always mean you’re wrong. It does mean valuing your relationship more than your ego.
10. You forgive and forget.
Hanging on to resentment is like leaving a knife inside a wound. While the offending party moves on with their life, you never give yourself the chance to heal. When you forgive and forget, you prevent others from holding your emotions hostage–allowing you to move forward.
11. You keep your commitments.
It’s common nowadays for people to break an agreement or commitment when they feel like it. But when you make a habit of keeping your word–in things big and small–you develop a strong reputation for reliability and trustworthiness.
12. You help others.
One of the greatest ways to positively impact the emotions of others is to help them. Most people don’t really care where you graduated from, or even about your previous accomplishments. But what about the hours you’re willing to take out of your schedule to listen or help out? Your readiness to get down in the trenches and work alongside them? Actions like these build trust and inspire others to follow your lead when it counts.
13. You protect yourself from emotional sabotage.
You realize that emotional intelligence also has a dark side–such as when individuals attempt to manipulate others’ emotions to promote a personal agenda or for some other selfish cause. And that’s why you continue to sharpen your own emotional intelligence–to protect yourself when they do so.
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman
Harshpreet Kaur-Clinical Psychologist
